December 23, 2015
When we focus on what is going right instead of what is going wrong, our perspective changes and we are able to live fuller, more productive and satisfying lives.
This does not mean turning a blind eye to life’s challenges. No. Instead, it is a call to develop a greater awareness of one thing: our focus.
That means, when we pattern our thinking around strengths, we liberate ourselves from limiting, self-defeating beliefs and perspectives. Developing a strengths focus and mentality helps us sort through and prioritize which thoughts and actions contribute to our best self and which keep us static and locked in fear or indecision.
Difficult as it may be to consider, some of our ideas about the world are probably outdated and could use some revision. The strengths give us productive tools to reevaluate our lives and our thinking with. That’s because they provide a comprehensive language to use, one which describes concrete actions to take toward change.
It’s worth stating that, perhaps, at one point in our life certain views and beliefs were relevant, but not any longer. Our feelings of fear, lack, or insecurity, for example, are likely grounded in real and practical experiences, which are long over but still echoing in our lives today.
By focusing on our strengths, we are freeing ourselves to move forward in a spirit of competence, confidence, and positive momentum.
Living from our strengths develops an awareness that we don’t have to be anyone else because…we already are someone. The strengths teach us how to honor and love who we already are, first and foremost; and then, with that knowledge, we learn how to become more and more of that.
The model of “focusing on weaknesses” teaches us how to become less and less bad at things.
The model of “focusing on strengths” teaches us how to become more and more and better and better at things that we are already good at and strong in.
That, in itself, is greatness.
What does my happiness look like?
Am I happy?
What is one action that I could take today toward a greater and more complete happiness?
Break out your phone and send three “just because” text messages to three people in your life. The messages can be short and sweet. A simple, “Hi. I was just thinking of you. I hope you are doing well!” will do.
Try it. See what happens.
Be it. Do it. Go.