March 30, 2016
5 Ideas, 3 Questions, and an Action
When it comes to shifting our mental focus from one state to another, one thing is certain: positive affirmations work. In fact, it’s likely that negative affirmations got our minds into a funk in the first place—so, we are wise to fight fire with fire.
That’s right, affirmations do not have to be “positive” in order to affect our minds. Put simply, affirmations are self-talk, plain and simple. These messages can be productive or unproductive—all that matters is that a “truth” is being validated and affirmed by the mind. Once that occurs, we develop a belief around it and begin to look for it in the world.
For example, if we have heard repeatedly that a certain person is a jerk, when we meet this person for the first time we will instinctively seek out evidence of this “truth”. Even if this person is totally cool and harmless, we have conditioned a belief in our mind about them that sets us up to see a very limited view of them.
Naming our strengths and then focusing on them with simple phrases like “I am good with people”, “I always meet my deadlines” or “I am always thinking of new ideas” can set up a mental framework where we are countering the flow of self-defeating messages with self-liberating ones.
Taking a 60 seconds each morning and night to name one quality that we like about ourselves can be a game changer, especially when we put it into a sentence that we can repeat throughout the day. Repeating a positive belief encourages a greater awareness of who we are when all the mental chatter appears.
Have I ever been wrong about someone or something because of a pre-conditioned belief?
Has someone been wrong about me because of their own pre-conditioned belief(s)?
What is one self-talk message that I would consider “unproductive”? Where did it come from? And, am I willing to change it?
Desired Result: Increasing Accountability With Your Goals
Concrete Action: Go Public!
We all probably know that when it comes to goals, accountability counts! That is, having someone outside of ourselves to hold us accountable to our mission can make all the difference. And, you don’t necessarily need a life coach to make this happen. Anyone in our network can fulfill this role. All that it requires is one person, or a group of people, willing to check in regularly on our progress. Say, for example, that you have a goal to meditate once a day for 30 days. You can call up a friend and say, “I am setting a goal for myself to meditate everyday for a month. Achieving this goal is important to me because I am seeking a greater sense of balance and calm in my life. Would you be willing to support me in this by being my accountability partner? All you would need to do would be to check in with me every other day and ask me how it’s going. The rest is up to me. What do you say?” If you want to take it a step further, you can even state your goals on social media and ask your entire network to rally behind you. If you choose to do this, be sure to post updates as you progress so that others have the opportunity to cheer you on (and hold you accountable).
Be your greatness. Start. Do. Go.
Zach Carlsen is the grateful lead blogger at StrengthsLife.com
His strengths of Ideation, Connectedness, Input, Strategic, and Empathy have taken him all over the world. He is an inventor, athlete, joyous wanderer/wonderer, translator, poet, and Transformation Coach.
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