Part 1 | Strengths and Self-Acceptance

TotallyMotivatedLifeEDITApril 4, 2016

5 Ideas, 3 Questions, and an Action

 A core belief in developing a strengths mindset is this: As we grow we will become more of who we already are; we are going to grow and develop most in our areas of strength.

Think of it this way: A flamingo could go its entire life trying to become a penguin and never succeed. A flamingo can only become more of what it is—a better and better flamingo.

When we spend our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energies trying to be someone else, not only are we denying what we truly are, we are not growing and evolving along the lines that we were meant to grow and evolve upon.

After all, we might spend all of our time and energy trying to get moderately good at something that simply comes naturally to someone else—our thousand hours to their ten. If we can learn to accept our selves and our strengths, we can practice developing them and focusing on their evolution.

This is, however, where it gets tricky. Because, in order to become more of what we are, we must first know what we are! We must first become aware of our foundation—and from there we can grow. As always, by becoming more aware of what lights up and feels good (as opposed to what we are told by others or society) we put ourselves in a position to experience self-discovery. To do this, we must begin asking ourselves questions and begin searching for answers. One of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves is this: Really, truly, how am I doing and feeling about life? 

Three Questions

 Do I truly know who I am and what my life’s purpose is?

Is there someone in my life that I could brainstorm this question with?

What are three things that I love about myself in this moment?

 An Action

 Desired Result: Give a Gift To Your Future Self

Concrete Action: Hide Positive Messages, Gifts, and Notes for Your Future Self to Find

Have you ever found $20 in your pocket that you didn’t know was there? Or, have you ever stumbled across an old letter or photograph that makes you feel good? I think that we all love it when that happens. This action creates conditions where that can occur more regularly in life. It’s pretty easy to imagine how it works. Gather up five or ten mementos, photos, ten dollar bills, letter, notes, and/or nick-knacks, and put them in a pile. Then, have a trusted friend or family member and, while you are not in the room, have them hide these objects around your space. Make them vow to never tell you where they put them. Then, simply go on living. In the back of your mind you will know that there are these little “gifts” hiding out in your space, but you don’t know when or where you will find them. If you don’t have a friend who will go along with this (and you have a short memory) try hiding them yourself.

Be your greatness. Start. Do. Go.

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Zach Carlsen is the grateful lead blogger at

His strengths of Ideation, Connectedness, Input, Strategic, and Empathy have taken him all over the world. He is an inventor, athlete, joyous wanderer/wonderer, translator, poet, and Transformation Coach.

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9 thoughts on “Part 1 | Strengths and Self-Acceptance

  1. Here is one thought. I have done a lot of things in my life but if I never moved outside the box and did things I wasn’t especially good at I wouldn’t know my strengths near as well.

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  2. Hey Zach, I love that exercise and what it conjures up in my mind. An interesting way to look at life. I also agree with you that we need to find our purpose and our passion if we really want to move forward. Great post.

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  3. Great idea! I once knew of a website where you could write yourself an email and schedule to have it sent to you in the future. I wrote myself an email, scheduled for it to be sent a year late, and promptly forgot about it. It was such a wonderful surprise when I received my positive note 365 days later.

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